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@lucy i’m pretty sure most of the people there are actually trolls because they told me i don’t pass and that my voice is like 5/10 at best. you know how wrong they are.
and their trolling works really well because most people who go there just end up boymoding forever and turn their fears of never passing into a self-fulfilling prophesy even though things aren’t anywhere near as hopeless as they believe
the fucking phrenology, digit ratio, statistics etc. are completely meaningless in practice. from what i’ve seen (not counting my own experience because i know i got lucky), passing in everyday life is 45% voice, 35% vibes and confidence, 20% looks and not even the things people on /tttt/ have the most brainworms about (imo baldness, body/facial hair, facial fat distribution, skin appearance, clothes/style)
when i say vibes, notice how for example people smile and greet us every time we’re happily holding hands? that overrides almost everything else. they see “oh happy harmless lovebirds, cute” instead of “gloomy person dressed in black, sus”. maybe you can take advantage of that? it helped me a lot with building confidence over time
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FinalOverdrive
FinalOverdrive@kolektiva.social@lucy Probably the source of a lot of headaches and problems on the fediverse. I imagine this is where the racist white trans woman and femboy is made.
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FinalOverdrive
FinalOverdrive@kolektiva.social@lucy Either way it frustrates me, wherever they come from. They make things miserable for black users here, give networks like translunar and xenofem a bad name, and drive wedges in the community. They need to cut it the fuck out.
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Lucy [hiatus era] 𒌋𒁯
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FinalOverdrive
FinalOverdrive@kolektiva.social@lucy point is I hate the wedge those mean bitches drive here. What is their major malfunction?!?
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@lucy the crossposters that is?
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FinalOverdrive
FinalOverdrive@kolektiva.social@lucy oh. But either way...Eris is a real headache to me. Anyway night. Hope you and mia get together soon.
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Lucy [hiatus era] 𒌋𒁯
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FinalOverdrive
FinalOverdrive@kolektiva.social@lucy I guess but she needs to know when to let shit go and maybe work on some shit.
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@lucy anyway i need to try and sleep
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FinalOverdrive
FinalOverdrive@kolektiva.social@lucy we'll talk more tomorrow...I need to make sense of what is going on.
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@lucy okay. Clearly there is more going on than I thought. I suspect a third party may be largely driving the conflict or at least pour gas on it
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