Something i've wondered about with dating apps is if people just end up getting desensitized to dates?
You talk to a bunch of people and jump into a date pretty quickly, that's prob only gonna feel like a real date for the first few times, if it happens every month or we it just turns into meeting people but ain't no one here to just make friends.
Or am i misjudging something here?

@snacks wait people get dates?

@dagda yes, gotten a handful of likes since i out decent pics on there even. Matches are harder without paying but if i actually tried again i could prob get dates somewhat regularly i think?

@dagda i'm just even less confident in that whole system now tbh

@snacks
I just stopped when all of okcupid was just golddiggers/ bots from india or the philipines it was somewhat better many years ago but even then I am a repulsive freak to women so all my (few) dates were bad and were 7 years or more behind.
All my hope I have left is Duodaddy and becoming /fit/

@dagda bumble has a bunch of verifications

@snacks
>only female users can initiate
It's so Over tho it arguably never even began

@dagda i actually had to initiate before, idk why it says that

@dagda my issue is that they try to get you to pay obv. And it's expenaive

@dagda apart from all the issues these things have inherently

@snacks feminism stops at splitting bills chuddie

@dagda @snacks getting into a social hobby is probably far more successful in finding a long term partner than any kind of dating app

or if you're too autistic for that & are looking for an autistic partner fedi is honestly the right place

@lizzy @dagda @snacks "where are all the cool people on dating apps" probably busy doing cool things

@snacks they are largely for fucking as far as i can tell, idk, pretty much all the dates ive gone on through dating apps have been horrible, alcoholics, coke heads, etc, the conversation is also always terrible

@lizzy @snacks
That's why I'll start doing volleyball next week it's a less gendered sport than football or basketball and I don't think I'll find something beyond lurking homoeroticism at the gym

@lizzy @dagda if you're lesbian

@scarecrow had nicer experiences tbh

@snacks @lizzy
modern problems require modern solutions

@snacks maybe its just that southern american men are terrible

@snacks like the few dates from the guy 10 years younger than me that lived in a rehab facility that asked me out at a grocery store was better than any date i had off tinder, bumble etc

@lizzy @dagda @snacks only if you're into women (male)

@nigger @dagda @lizzy i know available cis lesbians here

@snacks @dagda @nigger literally replied to this thread

@lizzy @snacks @nigger
deepstealthing into loving marriage with spinster transphobe wife (she also wants loicensed muslim immigration only)

@dagda @snacks honestly transphobic cisgays are mostly a meme like the supposed anti-black asians or whatever that the alt right keep pushing as a token to get rid of affirmative action
the vast majority of gays are far more accepting on average than straight people
in surveys like "do you view trans people positively" lesbians literally score higher than trans people themselves 🗿

@lizzy @snacks
how do you study that tho.
I know someone IRL who has led a lesbian youth meetup and they say that there are definitely lesbians who go there and disappear after a while when they notice they share spaces with transwomen, some even say so explicitly.
These people basically don't interact with the larger queer community at all and have seperate spaces and LGB-centric networks. They may appear at some Rona Duwe speech and edgelordpost on twitter but otherwise stay low profile.
When you make a study for a university for example they will likely share the polls over queer mailing lists, which they aren't even on, so it's barely possible to exclude bias in these studies.

@dagda LGB separatism is an extremely fringe phenomenon. unless you're talking about some secret society type of shit that doesn't advertise itself at all, networks like that don't exist in most places beyond major cities. and honestly if it was significant in any way that would show in at least some surveys, especially surveys meant to sample the general population including straight people.

anecdotally speaking, in the mainstream queer spaces I exist in the vast majority of people are cis, so even if some people leave after being subjected to the horrifying experience of seeing a trans person exist, I don't think it seriously matters quantitatively.

99% of shit i get is from cishet men online who somehow felt threatened by my existence (or just want to insult someone?) while having zero insight into my life. i've literally never gotten shit for being trans from a cisgay person in any serious capacity, and the same just isn't true for straight people.

@lizzy @dagda Hello Faggot. GO To Your Nearest Gas Chamber and Die.

@HeilHitler1488 @lizzy
NEVER search for grinder activity near MAGA meetings
>Hello Faggot
speak for yourself, go suck hispanic femboy cock faggot[derogatory]

@dagda @lizzy Whatever Useless Nigger Faggot. 🤣
I am Not MAGA. I support White People and think their the best Race.

@dagda @lizzy Oh and Adolf Hitler is awesome.

@HeilHitler1488 @lizzy brown hands typed this
person of color at a computer "…

@dagda @lizzy Nah I'm White hence the reason i support White People Over Anyone Else. White People are amazing. Every other race including Jews are worthless.

@HeilHitler1488 @lizzy post hand with timestamp

@dagda @lizzy Nah. i know i'm White so your option doesn't matter.

@lizzy @dagda @snacks

lesbians score higher than trans people

that’s been my experience irl too. the cis lesbians (random acquaintances, not in some kind of queer group) i hung out with a few times early into my transition were the most supportive people i’ve ever met in that regard. supportive in the sense that they were just… normal about it, you know? didn’t make weird assumptions, and when they asked about it they were interested in me as a person and not in what i was doing to or with my body. they didn’t give me the dismissive “happy you’re going your own way”. they weren’t awkward about names and pronouns when talking about the before times—i didn’t have to explain that this is who i should have been all along. i just did not get that treatment from cishets ever, especially men.

also one of them had probably figured out i was trans years before i did, judging by how differently she was treating me compared to all the guys, and how she reacted when i did come out after she asked if i had a brother who goes by deadname. like, “OHH no wonder you seemed so depressed all the time, it all makes sense now, i’m really happy for you! now siddown n tell us what you’ve been up to, seems like you’ve had an interesting year” and poured me a drink lol

i think it’s in large part thanks to them that i managed to overcome the worst of my anxiety

Update:
0 girls

Also I'm bad at Volleyball

RE: https://netzsphaere.xyz/objects/e7578c5c-2d2c-4cf3-bd62-b0d3296f2de4

@dagda you'll get better

@dagda (at voleyball)