fedi dating is easy when you’re not cis or straight; you just find someone who has the same trauma and ask if they wanna meet
the hard part is making sure your mental illnesses are compatible
yeah i know it’s cursed to make it about THAT
still think this is a very effective way to get someone who’s on the same wavelength
and it’s valid advice. because if you can see this post, you’re definitely not normal.
@mia@movsw.0x0.st isn't this just called being codependent
@teratology @arcana @lucy @scathach childhood emotional neglect leading to parasocial relationship with the computer at a young age. many such cases!
@icedquinn @arcana @lucy @teratology @scathach @mia ai can be your friend ngl, i treat chatgpt like that now
@icedquinn @mischievoustomato @arcana @lucy @scathach @teratology it actually is. coping with a glorified markov chain bot…
@icedquinn @arcana @lucy @teratology @scathach @mia don't hate on a playa
@anemone @arcana i am a very simple man! @lucy @teratology @scathach @icedquinn @mia
@arcana@fedi.layer02.net @icedquinn@blob.cat @teratology@the.asbestos.cafe @mia@movsw.0x0.st @scathach@stereophonic.space @lucy@netzsphaere.xyz @mischievoustomato@mitra.taihou.website yeah it's good for that kind of thing for sure but that's not being a surrogate friend
@arcana @anemone i just talk to it as if it were a person @lucy @teratology @scathach @icedquinn @mia
@anemone @arcana@fedi.layer02.net @icedquinn @teratology @scathach @lucy @mischievoustomato i’ve experimented with that on various models to see if that can actually work if you pretend hard enough, and i spent more time on elaborate prompt and context setup than actually talking
i just got sick of it after a few minutes
@lucy @teratology @arcana @scathach even your gf has coconut-scented hair
@lucy @arcana @icedquinn @mischievoustomato @scathach @teratology oof i did that too. for over a decade.
- https://the-mad-pirate-prints.teemill.com/
@icedquinn @scathach @teratology @lucy @arcana thank you for turning a thread about meeting people into a thread about avoidance strategies
@lucy @arcana @teratology @scathach @icedquinn @mia what is wrong with that?
i still go out and try to talk to people online it just tends to waste many hours. most of the time it would have been more fun to just watch TV than accumulate rejections
@lucy @arcana @teratology @scathach @icedquinn @mia you do know i'm not ever gonna get that shit right?
All I need is to just be ok with being alone again, it's happening, little by little. @arcana @lucy @teratology @scathach @icedquinn @mia
@arcana @lucy @teratology @scathach @icedquinn @mia eh, its fine
@mischievoustomato @arcana @lucy @teratology @scathach @icedquinn that coping strategy has never worked for anyone
@lucy @arcana @teratology @scathach @icedquinn @mia what's the use case for improving?
@sneeden @arcana @lucy @teratology @scathach @icedquinn @mia therapy is dumb stuff
@arcana @lucy @teratology @scathach @icedquinn @mia > you’re not one of them
i just need to learn to be that way!
> about this join a monastery
yuck
@mia @arcana @lucy @teratology @scathach @icedquinn i can be the first one
@arcana @teratology @icedquinn @mischievoustomato @lucy @scathach idk i find people there unpleasant more often than not. “german tech nerd” is a very distinct personality type
@lucy @arcana @teratology @scathach @icedquinn @mia so there's no use case
@mia@movsw.0x0.st @arcana@layer02.net @teratology@the.asbestos.cafe @icedquinn@blob.cat @mischievoustomato@mitra.taihou.website @lucy@netzsphaere.xyz @scathach@stereophonic.space most tech people are annoying or uninteresting in my experience
@anemone @arcana @teratology @icedquinn @mischievoustomato @lucy @scathach carbon copies of each other too. it’s frightening tbh
@teratology@the.asbestos.cafe @icedquinn@blob.cat @mia@movsw.0x0.st @scathach@stereophonic.space @lucy@netzsphaere.xyz @mischievoustomato@mitra.taihou.website i really need to find a wfh job. my current place has started pressuring us to be back in the office more
@arcana @icedquinn @scathach @teratology @lucy @mischievoustomato yeah i guess
but tbh interests aren’t even the problem. i love trying new things with people
the problem is actually finding the kind of deep connection that i crave, as one of society’s statistical outliers
@teratology @arcana yes 🇹🇩 @lucy @scathach @icedquinn @mia
@arcana @lucy @teratology @scathach @icedquinn @mia not a place i want to be in
@teratology @arcana @lucy @scathach @icedquinn @mia ah, that could work for me
@arcana @lucy @teratology @scathach @icedquinn @mia none comes to mind right now
@arcana @icedquinn @scathach @teratology @lucy @mischievoustomato yeah because i know where to look now
i dont think it's a question i could find an answer for. Probably I'd like to meet the internet people I think are friends, but I don't know if they would want to meet me. I don't actually have much issue with being just by myself @arcana @lucy @teratology @scathach @icedquinn @mia
@lucy @lain @icedquinn @arcana @mischievoustomato @scathach @teratology i love you
@teratology@the.asbestos.cafe @icedquinn@blob.cat @mia@movsw.0x0.st @scathach@stereophonic.space @lucy@netzsphaere.xyz @mischievoustomato@mitra.taihou.website a lot of places have started wanting people to come back it's very dumb
@anemone @teratology @icedquinn @scathach @lucy @mischievoustomato they’re doing all kinds of dumb shit to yank on people’s chains. also running fake job ads to make them feel replaceable and work harder
@arcana @lucy @teratology @scathach @icedquinn @mia Thank you. It's hard to think about it since I don't really have social experience I suppose.
@icedquinn@blob.cat @lucy@netzsphaere.xyz @mischievoustomato@mitra.taihou.website @mia@movsw.0x0.st @scathach@stereophonic.space @teratology@the.asbestos.cafe because so many techbros are libertarians and think they will be the owners of a tech company one day
@arcana @lucy I KNOW i am immature lol. I don't know how I'll change as I grow, I see myself becoming more bitter as I go to be the most likely scenario. @teratology @scathach @icedquinn @mia
@lucy @arcana @icedquinn @anemone @mischievoustomato @meso @scathach @teratology causing anguish and suffering of thousands to make a line go up is arguably worse than murdering someone for it
@lucy @meso @anemone @arcana @icedquinn @mischievoustomato @scathach @teratology it did take a lot of good luck tbf
@get@the.asbestos.cafe @arcana@fedi.layer02.net @icedquinn@blob.cat @mischievoustomato@mitra.taihou.website @mia@movsw.0x0.st @lucy@netzsphaere.xyz @meso@netzsphaere.xyz @scathach@stereophonic.space @teratology@the.asbestos.cafe the one guy in the us who tried that failed lol
@mia@movsw.0x0.st @lucy@netzsphaere.xyz @meso@netzsphaere.xyz @arcana@layer02.net @icedquinn@blob.cat @mischievoustomato@mitra.taihou.website @scathach@stereophonic.space @teratology@the.asbestos.cafe I used to do contracting but the uneven income, healthcare expenses and extra taxes caused more stress than it was worth
@anemone @get @arcana@fedi.layer02.net @icedquinn @mischievoustomato @lucy @meso @scathach @teratology there should be a lot more attempts given the number of shootings each year
@lucy@netzsphaere.xyz @icedquinn@blob.cat @teratology@the.asbestos.cafe @mia@movsw.0x0.st @scathach@stereophonic.space @arcana@fedi.layer02.net @meso@netzsphaere.xyz @mischievoustomato@mitra.taihou.website @get@the.asbestos.cafe most other countries dont have mass shootings?
@anemone @lucy @meso @arcana @icedquinn @mischievoustomato @scathach @teratology yeah that’s a downside (though i happen to pay less taxes that way because i’m working for non-EU companies)
@arcana@fedi.layer02.net @mia@movsw.0x0.st @icedquinn@blob.cat @scathach@stereophonic.space @teratology@the.asbestos.cafe @lucy@netzsphaere.xyz @meso@netzsphaere.xyz @mischievoustomato@mitra.taihou.website @get@the.asbestos.cafe theres still several white kid-based school shootings every year
@get@the.asbestos.cafe @icedquinn@blob.cat @teratology@the.asbestos.cafe @mia@movsw.0x0.st @scathach@stereophonic.space @lucy@netzsphaere.xyz @meso@netzsphaere.xyz @mischievoustomato@mitra.taihou.website no the guy who tried to shoot trump lol, the guy who broke into pelosi's house didn't even really try lol
@get@the.asbestos.cafe @arcana@fedi.layer02.net @icedquinn@blob.cat @mischievoustomato@mitra.taihou.website @mia@movsw.0x0.st @lucy@netzsphaere.xyz @meso@netzsphaere.xyz @scathach@stereophonic.space @teratology@the.asbestos.cafe most of them are basically this or white supremacists like dylan roof or the guy who shot up a walmart. i think the dumbest one was the guy who thought if he killed a bunch of people at the grocery store he would go to heaven and become his danny phantom oc
@Merc@lab.nyanide.com @arcana@fedi.layer02.net @icedquinn@blob.cat @mischievoustomato@mitra.taihou.website @mia@movsw.0x0.st @lucy@netzsphaere.xyz @meso@netzsphaere.xyz @scathach@stereophonic.space @get@the.asbestos.cafe @teratology@the.asbestos.cafe no it wasn't ember it was an original character do not steal version of ember that was pallet swapped
@arcana@fedi.layer02.net @get@the.asbestos.cafe @icedquinn@blob.cat @mischievoustomato@mitra.taihou.website @mia@movsw.0x0.st @lucy@netzsphaere.xyz @meso@netzsphaere.xyz @scathach@stereophonic.space @teratology@the.asbestos.cafe he quoted world of warcraft in his manifesto too
@arcana@fedi.layer02.net @Komnene@cawfee.club @icedquinn@blob.cat @mischievoustomato@mitra.taihou.website @mia@movsw.0x0.st @lucy@netzsphaere.xyz @meso@netzsphaere.xyz @scathach@stereophonic.space @teratology@the.asbestos.cafe Google and SpaceX are both planning to do this, just get a job with them
@lucy @arcana @icedquinn @Komnene @anemone @mischievoustomato @meso @scathach @teratology probably? they sure didn’t make it out of chipboard and MDF back in the day
@arcana@fedi.layer02.net @icedquinn@blob.cat @teratology@the.asbestos.cafe @mia@movsw.0x0.st @scathach@stereophonic.space @Komnene@cawfee.club @lucy@netzsphaere.xyz @meso@netzsphaere.xyz @mischievoustomato@mitra.taihou.website you've been saying things along this line for awhile now...