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kaia
kaia@brotka.st
I have a friend who wants to date a shy autistic girl. does fedi have any suggestions what to consider when trying to date her? 
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@kaia make her good food, offer her sweets and compliment her.
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AkIHBk8AuoxIXHk7I8.jeff@mk.magicka.org
AkIHBk8AuoxIXHk7I8.jeff@mk.magicka.org@kaia i also want to date a shy autistic girl
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Allan Chow
grumpasaurus@infosec.exchange
Stupid knee jerk reaction
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@kaia don't take after any male lead character in any Asian drama
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would work for me
- infodumping about your interests is hot. sharing a fascination is love.
- enjoy each other’s company without necessarily doing the same thing together
- if you’re planning any activities, be prepared to stop and leave in case it gets too intense. worst case: imagine if you’re severely sleep deprived and can’t focus on anything so everything happening around you is kinda too much and you can barely articulate your own needs—don’t ask too many questions, just get somewhere quiet.
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@kaia make sure she's actually a girl
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@Idoru yeah, they have been together at parties and played games together. but she's ignoring him making obvious hints about dates
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@kaia so she's not ignoring him.
Straight up just ask. Literally. No subtext stuff, that gets confused.
Weave in the coping strategies that have been mentioned above when out on the date. Things can flip and change if overstimulated, so the friend will have to not take it personally and help autist if that happens. But not help. Help by.... The autist will know what to do, they have to helo facilitate that. 👍
Straight up just ask. Literally. No subtext stuff, that gets confused.
Weave in the coping strategies that have been mentioned above when out on the date. Things can flip and change if overstimulated, so the friend will have to not take it personally and help autist if that happens. But not help. Help by.... The autist will know what to do, they have to helo facilitate that. 👍
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nico@toot.exchange@kaia give her constant affirmations she’s doing okay and she’s amazing
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