@sun that was part of hjs point. I'm grossed out by poop and thus hate butt stuff (also, not very into butts), but im not homophobic against gay men. the fear of spreading diseases is part of homophobia for many people and I won't say one can't be homophobic because of that, but I think its usually "men acting like women is bad" as the primary or at very least a secondary factor, hence you get so many straight men into butt stuff with women these days and also acceptance of masculine gay men who top historically. also, not all male sex with men is anal. that conception imo is rooted in a heterosexual coitus-centered understanding of sex.