@paula @lucy @meso @prettygood Being intimidating doesn't actually negatively affect socialization unless you're trying to interact with really anxious trauma golem types. You just have to develop a way to talk to people and body language that signals to them that while sure you could kill them, there's no reasonable excuse why you would.
I say this as someone who has in more than one occassion had friends said "send someone less scary" when I took initiative on certain stuff, and yet IRL always end up being the most trusted person to most.