Maila Mailaria
MalibuSunrise@linfan.moe
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being "desperate for love" is really bad, it leads to inbalanced relationships that happen just to have someone around.
there's only two endings to this: the desperate either stays in this horrible mindset and never gains any confidence; being emotionally entirely dependent on their partner.
or that person actually does get better and starts to wonder what kind of life they really want to live and what kind of person to share it with.
i would argue it's cruel to start dating someone who's clearly crippingly desperate for any romantic or intimate attention from literally anyone.
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I'm glad that, a long time ago, I allowed myself to become attached to someone who was in a horrible place. It blossomed into something much healthier, for the simple reason that I gave her a chance. If I'd have taken the advice of literally everyone around me (to go for the girl who had her shit together) I would have been sitting here wondering "what if" for the rest of my life. Love isn't a market, it's a thunderbolt.
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@druid im glad it worked out for you 2.
im not talking about being in a bad spot or not having your shit together im talking about people with next to no social life, no interests/severe depression, who start obsessing over the idea of anyone giving them attention.
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ra1n@freedombits.org
ra1n@freedombits.org
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mia (developer mode)
mia@shrimptest.0x0.st@yew @druid the real proof is in whether that person you’re helping will actually use that opportunity to turn their life around (growing and striving for life goals together is wonderful), or stays a helpless, ambitionless parasite
and true love also means being able to let go because you’d rather see them happily living the life they want than shackled to you.
a breakup does not hurt nearly as much when you can believe in a happy future for both of you. and finding love is much easier when you don’t need the love of others as a substitute for your own sense of self-worth (in other words, you have confidence)
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mia (developer mode)
mia@shrimptest.0x0.st@yew @druid speaking from experience it’s also really easy to fall in love and think you found your soulmate when in reality you’re both just masking and desperately clinging to each other for affection because you never experienced it before and feel alienated and fundamentally different from everyone else in your life
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Maila Mailaria
MalibuSunrise@linfan.moewhen woman have hot bf:
"classic lookism blackpill moment, every woman is a stupid bitch who only goes for most best good looking of men who's bone structures i analyze day and night because i am not gay"
when woman have ugly bf:
"he definitely has money, there must be some other factor why a dumb stacy would date such an ugly manlet (not gay btw) i cannot fathom real love"
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mia (developer mode)
mia@shrimptest.0x0.st@dagda @druid @yew chad is a spook is what he is
“confidence” here means having a sense of self-worth that doesn’t depend on constantly getting showered with affection (that does not mean arrogance and overcofidence, it means believing in yourself), it means having some ambition in your life instead of pissing it away while you’re rotting in a cave (you know what you want and you are doing what you can to get it), it means having some agency and the drive to get your shit together and grow as a person (you acknowledge your flaws as something you can influence and work to improve). it means not constantly whining and belittling yourself for how worthless and undesirable you are, but doing something about it and not being afraid of seeking help from others.
you don’t even have to be particularly successful at any of this. just having some fucking zest already makes someone more attractive than 90% of internet losers
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mia (developer mode)
mia@shrimptest.0x0.st@dagda @druid @yew the entire concept of chad is nothing but a manifestation of your inferiority complex that justifies continuing to act helpless. it doesn’t have to be this way. if i weren’t trans i’d still be a 5’1” manlet with no savings, no car and little success in life. but i guarantee you i would not still be single and whining about foids online because none of that shit matters nearly as much as you think it does.
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I do but the online thing is just compensation for being the /niceguy/ irl.
People do think I'm funny but I'm careful not to expose my power level, last time some IRL guy deduced I got imageboard brainworms he vented about how he wants to literally rape some alt girl I know, which was rather uncomfortable.
In terms of IRL communities I got goths, leftoids and chaos "people", so I got the choice between being mogged by 6"4 literal vampire, sent to feminist reeducation gulag for asking out a girl or becoming a homosexual computer furry
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