@moth_ball @georgia what worked for me looking at husband:
"he seems like a great guy for a straight girl, very reliable, quite muscular, deep voice. i'm sure he'll find a great wife"
"i'm not into it, but i'm impressed how hard he works on himself"
"he really is nice, isn't he? but strong at the same time"
"i wonder whether he has a girlfriend? i wonder what she's like?"
"maybe i should talk to him to get to know him........"