There were works written by Jewish women, Holocaust survivors, fetishizing their sexual abuse at the hands of Nazis. You wouldn't accuse them of desiring that very abuse, nor equivocate their way of processing their trauma with the very trauma of systematic rape that they received. No sane person would do so.
Trans women are institutionally and systematically raped; raped at school, rendered homeless and raped, rendered jobless and raped—raped at their jobs, raped in their homes, forced to prostitute themselves and be raped, be jailed and convicted for prostitution and raped, v-coded and raped. A mere fraction of our rapes is statistically registered.
You, a sane person, would be reasonable and infer that trans women's frequent fetishization of sexual abuse is a cultural reflection of the abuses which we receive and a way of processing them. You, a sane person, would not equivocate this with the very systemic rape which we receive, nor infer it were a desire for that rape to actually occur.
But perhaps you are not a sane person.